Al-Anon: Help for the Family

By The Care Centers. Posted on Fri Feb 26 2016
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If you have a family member who is suffering from alcoholism, they may not be the only one who needs support. Even if they have sought help at a rehab facility and are on the road to recovery, you and the rest of your family may need help, too. Fortunately, Al-Anon has family group meetings and support to help you recover from what is, essentially, a family disease.

Alcoholism Hurts the Whole Family
Watching someone you love battle with alcoholism can be devastating. Sometimes they understand that they have a problem, so they avoid family and friends, hiding to keep drinking. Sometimes they don’t recognize that they have a problem at all, but they can’t help lashing out, forgetting responsibilities, and otherwise hurting you and the rest of the family.

You’ve Tried to Help but Gotten Nowhere
Maybe you’ve tried talking with them about their drinking, but they’ve brushed you off. Maybe you want to talk to them about their problem, but you can’t find the words or don’t know how to approach them. Maybe they’ve started the recovery process, and you want to provide a better support system. People go to Al-Anon family group meetings for all of these reasons and more.

A Simple Change in Your Behavior Could Help
While there are no secret tricks, and you’ll never be able to wave a wand and cure your loved one’s alcoholism with a few magic words, sometimes changing your behavior can help them on the road to recovery. Do you still keep alcohol in the house? How do you approach them about their problem? Do you speak in judgmental terms, or do you focus on their health and how you want to help them? The organizers of Al-Anon emphasize that alcoholism is a very complex disease, and so it’s not likely that a single thing will “cure” your alcoholic loved one, but a few changes and some understanding can go a long way toward helping them on their journey to recovery.

Should You Join an Al-Anon Meeting for Families?
Are you worried about a loved one’s drinking? Is their drinking causing money problems for your household? Do you sometimes lie for them or try to cover up for their drinking? Do you sometimes feel like they don’t care about you because they always choose alcohol over your needs and the needs of your family? Are family plans often upset or canceled because of their drinking?

If you answered yes to any or all of these questions, then you could probably benefit from attending a few meetings or seeking professional help. While you may not need rehabilitative help the way your alcoholic loved one does, you could certainly use some support as you go through this with them. Whether they realize that they have a problem and are seeking help or they have completely refused to even cut back a little bit on their drinking, their problem is affecting you and the whole family, but you can get help and support.

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